For most people I know, I see that making decisions is one of the hardest things to do because sometimes it can turn into one of the scariest things in life, i.e., Regret! There is always this anxiety before making any decision that what if it turns out to be a bad idea. This thought, this anxiety, this fear stops them from doing what they really wanted to do in the first place, and instead of being true to themselves, they make choices, which is an illusion of a safe spot.
I have seen many people in my life, particularly family and friends, who have made decisions hesitantly, which they regret later in life. And have also seen people making decisions against the tide, and they are glad they chose that path. The main difference I felt between these two kinds of people is their attitude towards their decisions. Both have the same question in their mind while making a decision, what if it is not the right decision. As I mentioned in my previous post, we all have answers to our questions within. All we must do is look for it. The answer for some is, it would be a mistake, and they would regret it, and for others, it would be a lesson to learn and move on. We all know everyone wants to be the latter, but most of them end up being the former.
Education, knowledge, learning, experiences, willingness to do the right thing, and ready to sacrifice for it all these things help us make the right decisions. There is this one quote, I am not sure about the original source but makes complete sense to me.
Learn from the mistakes of others. You can never live long enough to make them all yourself.
I don’t have any magical way of making the right decisions. I have made many wrong decisions. But I have a very basic ideology of skipping regrets. For instance, what do you do if you want to skip a plan? You make excuses to not participate in it. What you do if you want to avoid your ex-partner in a party? You avoid your ex, choose a different path, and move on. That’s what you do with regrets. You find an excuse not to participate in the process of being regretful. You apologize to yourself, learn the lesson, think of doing it right next time, and move on.
Neither does it sound easy, nor it is. It is damn difficult. I am trying to follow this ideology from the past ten years. Have I succeeded in making the right decisions all the time or not regretting about making wrong choices? The answer is no. But, the probability of making the right decisions has increased, and I don’t regret making wrong decisions for more than a minute.
If you are still not bored or want more reasoning, then read about some of the decisions I have made, how they turned out, and what was my reaction to those were. Stay tuned for my next post.